How does one truly let go of hurt feelings, of negative moments, of personal traumas and all the other times when they felt unnoticed, unworthy, unloved?
Letting go of hurt feelings, negative moments, personal traumas, and feelings of being unnoticed, unworthy, or unloved can be a challenging and deeply personal process. It takes time, self-compassion, and effort, but it is possible to heal and move forward. Here are some steps that might help you on your journey:
Acknowledge and accept your feelings: It's important to recognize that it's OKAY to feel hurt or negative emotions. It's okay to be "NOT okay". Give yourself permission to feel without judgment. Accepting these emotions is the first step toward letting them go.
Understand the impact: Take some time to reflect on how these experiences have affected you and your life. Recognize the patterns they may have created and consider how they might be influencing your present behavior.
Seek support: Don't be afraid to reach out to friends, family, or a therapist to talk about your feelings and experiences. Having a supportive network can be immensely helpful in the healing process. Psychic, Astrologer, and Spiritual Activator, Jana Stern (janastern.com)(@janasternhealer) has been instrumental to my own progress with letting go of addictions, limiting beliefs, and conditioning/programming that no longer serves me. I completed the "Ignite Your Light" series with Jana and it changed my perspective, my understanding, and my life in so many ways.
Practice self-compassion: Treat yourself with kindness and understanding. Understand that everyone goes through difficult times, and it's okay to be imperfect. Be gentle with yourself and avoid self-blame.
Challenge negative thoughts: Often, our hurt feelings are intensified by negative thought patterns. Try to identify negative thoughts and work on reframing them in a more positive or realistic light.
Forgiveness (optional): Forgiving those who have hurt you can be a powerful step in the healing process. However, forgiveness is not always necessary or possible, and it's essential to recognize that it's a personal decision.
Practice mindfulness and grounding techniques: Mindfulness can help you stay in the present moment and prevent rumination on past hurts. Grounding exercises can help you feel more connected to the present reality. These take time to master ... that's why it's called a practice.
Engage in activities that bring you joy: Focus on hobbies, activities, or spending time with loved ones that bring you happiness and a sense of purpose.
Set boundaries: Learn to assertively communicate your boundaries with others to protect yourself from further hurtful situations. Much of what I am healing from today could have been avoided altogether, had I been taught to set healthy boundaries.
Consider professional help: If your trauma or hurt feelings are deeply rooted and significantly impacting your daily life, seeking professional counseling or therapy can be immensely beneficial.
Journaling: Writing about your feelings and experiences can help you process and gain clarity on your emotions. It can have a similar effect other forms of talk therapy.
Practice self-care: Take care of your physical, mental, emotional, social, and spiritual well-being. Make time for activities that nourish your body, mind, and spirit.
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